Craig, I hope you won't push her anymore about the divorce or leaving you. She has been through so much and I know you are in a lot of pain by her "killing your love" for her, but she has experienced a lot of change in her life already and if you push too hard and she feels that she has to leave or get D....it could have some bad results. I pray that you can hang on longer and give her support.
Tomorrow will the the anniversay of the death of my dad. 20 years ago.....wow! I still miss him so much. No matter how old you get, your dad will always hold that special place in your heart. I told my son when he found out he was having a little girl, that he would be the first man that she would ever love. It is so true and it hurts so badly when you lose them. So, sweetie, please hold out a little longer.
It seems to me that she is finding "reasons" to not leave, so I think that is a good sign. You feeling "out of love" with her right now, I believe, is a natural result of all the bad stuff that has been going on for both of you over a period of time. You have taken an emotional beating. Right now, she is not able to "feed" that love connection, but hopefully, she will be healthy enough soon.
Again, I hope you won't "push" her into doing something you both will regret. Get through this tough period....give her time to grieve.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
