Thanks for looking in . It is interesting , I had let expectations creep up and this was starting to drain me a little I think. I talked last night with the older boy and he thinks I am being too nice to W and helping out too much. D12 just takes it all in her stride , she lives with me in effect but goes and visits W 3 /4 nights a week but they are realy just sleep overs and fun . S17 goes one night , S20 never visits . They are dealing with things quite well , they have been disrupted as little as possible so life for them different but familiar ( if that makes sense ).
W still cant quite get a grip on not having control . Last night I am on the phone and I get a TXT message , " Who is on phone , need to talk with d has lost key " I TXT back " me on ph. will help her find it" I found the key and TXT W , "key found all ok"
she txt back an appology with a good nite.
I have decided to back off initiating contact to see what happens , I have been too focused on W for last couple of weeks and not focused on myself. When we do have contact I will still be friendly and happy but won't hang around unless invited. its a bit of an experiment that may take a while to show results good or bad. I figure I have made it too easy by being available to her when needed without being asked. I dont think she values what she doesnt have to work at. If she works at it then she will be rewarded with some quality time , if not then it wont happen.
This will be a bit of a 180 from the last few weeks.
