I feel the same way about having had H at his best.
I had my H when he was healthy, not emotionally weak, immature, and just plain weird.
I told him this about 6 months ago. I told him I was blessed to have had him those 17 wonderful years. I told him I will not ever forget what we had and how wonderful he use to be. I told him I had been blessed beyond measure. He hated that I said this.
Only time will tell if we will ever have it back. I know I have to keep reminding myself that this is not about me - it is his crisis.
Hugs Hope - you are in my prayers..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11