What I have seen about your sitch, looks good. I do not know you well enough to judge the amount of gentleness and letting go of the rope that you do.
Getting in the car with D to go to H, for me, would have been a big risk, until I had something more concrete to do. It tends to make you look a little over eager, and allow him to cake eat?
Just a quick judgment, not an informed one.....
Help me out, give me some feedback.

1-10

my patience
my history of backing off from H
my history of mystery about myself for H (not sharing all the facts)
my gentle response to bad news, or information from him.
how many times in the last 6 months have I lost my temper with H in front of H?
GAL


um, can't think of anything else right now, so that is a start.....

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.