I couldn't decide if she was being dishonest to me to protect my feelings or if she was doing it to serve her own purpose. I still don't really even know to this day. We were always honest with each other during our M. Sometime I think she did it to string me along and then there are times I think she did it to protect my feelings or to soften the blow.
I think how I would react (forgive, forget, ignore, drop them, etc,.) depends on what somebody's reason is for being dishonest with me.
I think I could forgive easier if they were dishonest to me to protect my feelings or if there was no malicious intent. If the intent was self-serving, vindictive, or to cause harm to me in some manner, then I would have a harder time with that one.
The affair itself was the dishonesty. And regardless of the reasons, it was a dishonesty if by failing to mention this OP, it gave you the impression there was a chance. But just imagine that you never found out about an affair, things worked out between you, and you had a great relationship. Would you want that honesty?
Last edited by Just_Me; 03/17/0809:48 PM.
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