I sent W an ad for a job I could look at back in our town. She said it would not work for me to live with her again. Instead of ignoring, I said it sounds like you have made a choice on our future, I need to be close to our kids. She said the constant melodrama is tiring, what indication has she given me that she wants me back... I said I have had no melodrama and have not talked about R for a long time, your message seemed to have some finality to it and I do not want that, that I will have no more R talk. I almost wrote to let me know when I need to retain an L.. glad I didn't backslide that much.
This is such a difficult place to be in. I feel for you and can identify with some of how you are feeling. My W. is WAW and there is a sense of a lot of emotional distance (yet there is a friendly connection most of the time that has some depth too). It's very confusing trying to find the place of not pushing too much, but also not being inert.
Hang in there. I hope that you find you are able to have a reconnect with her in a positive way.
Thanks. I really think it's totally over, just waiting for her to say it. When I go back for S bday I'm not wearing my ring. She hasn't worn hers in months and I think it is LRT time.
Doing much better at detaching the last few days. It really does help your frame of mind when you can do that a bit... (not news to anyone, I know) :-)
Any comments on not wearing my ring when I go back? I guess it's to make the point that I am detaching. She has not worn hers since last summer, I've always kept mine on. I see this as a LRT at this point...
Whatever you decide to do with the ring, wearing it or not. Do it for yourself and yourself alone, not to provoke a reaction from her. Personally I would wear the ring as long as it meant something to me. I woulnd't advise taking the ring off to see if it has an effect on her. You'll be dissappointed in any regard with that.
Wear the ring as long as you have hope or faith.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Thanks. I go back and forth between 0 faith and very little faith.
Last night kids called while I was at a ST. P party. LAter I talkesd to W about something and she was MAD! "I am here working, blah, blah, blah, whiklel yo are out having fun..." I wanted to say this is the life that YOU want, so get off me. But I didn't...
More conversational this afternoon. A lot about trying to sell the house (which has been on the market for awhile). I said I am no hurry, that we probably need to figue out our sitch long term before we make any big decisions. W said the point is that we need to reduce costs. I know I over-analyze, but she has said in the past (in anger) that she can't wait to sell the house and be on her own.
