BobbiJo, You haven't said if your H has found an IC yet. He is obviously suffering from depression. I don't think it is something you can push. However, he did tell you he was going to start after he moved. Maybe your ILs can bring it up w/ him.
I bought myself a band that says live, love, laugh. I still have on my W ring, but I wear it as a little PMA reminder. (opps I typed PMS first. Like a need a reminder for that )