I think pride and guilt are there too. My H doesn't want pple to know we're getting separated. I think he feels like he's failed me.... by not being able to make me happy... otherwise, why wouldn't I have made him feel loved, ... right? I failed him. Like your letter Michelle... I took my lovely wonderful husband for granted.

My therapist made an observation about how our love sometimes can feel like it's sucking the life out of the other person, we make them feel inadequate and unlovable. The book I'm reading Love without Hurt also talks about how unloved and feelings of inadequacy can lead to resentment... and the feelings of I don't love you anymore.

Fear of letting those barriers down again... only to have feelings of feeling guilty or inadequate... gotta find the way to make it easy as possible to "come back" home..... somehow.

Abbey

T:22, M:20
H:55 Me:45
H-OW PA: N/07
OW Jan08
Bomb:Feb/08
S: Apr/08
Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11
Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess.
Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.