H is having affair after all

[seekpeaceofmind]

I finally have had a chance to stop by and see how you are doing. I haven't had internet access at home. . . . It seems like you are doing pretty well. I'm glad you are seeing a counselor. You've been really respectful and clear in setting your boundaries with H - too bad he won't honor this and chooses instead to act like a self-centered child - I guess that is part of MLC. . . He seems to be full of dread and anxiety that you are going to punish him through the boys or the business or some way - more projection?

Our friend says he has seen H and H has said that they were both seperated when the affair started and sees it as 2 seperated people doing just that.

It's almost funny that he keeps repeating this as if it explains or justifies his behavior. Did you watch "Friends" - maybe it wasn't on in England. There was this whole thing about two of the characters being in love with each other and always not quite connecting. Finally they are together, but they have a fight and she says she wants some time apart. He ends up in a one-night stand and she finds out. Fireworks. From that moment forward, whenever his cheating is discussed, he said "We were on a break!" as if that should have been the last word on the subject.