I think there comes a time when maybe we realize that we can not change their behavior...I think of my mom when I talk about this stuff
we can not change their reactions but we can change our reactions to them...
my mom and I had a nasty relationship...the same or opposite in everything
so I try really hard to changemy perception of things...usually it takes the wind right out of her sails...she is so used tome responding a certain way and actually has prepared her reactions basedon those reactions
so when I am pro-active...she doesn't know what to do, really
our relationship has improved...or at least my perception of it has...
