What is the collective wisdom of those that are separated regarding meeting with WAW to discuss the "business" of separation?
My WAW and I are supporting separate households and splitting the expenses of our 17,20 S. We are meeting tonight to discuss the expenses we have each paid for the past 8 weeks for things like clothing, inusrance, tuition and the like. I have seen that these meetings can be a way to see each other while not being pressured to talk about the R.
My WAW never really paid attention to the finances and I sense she is becoming increasingly nervous about supporting herself and the true cost of "being on her own". She will probably end up owing me about $1,000 due to the difference in what we have each spent.
I would in a heartbeat tell her not to worry about paying me if I thought it would help us to reconnect but I also feel that she needs to be more aware of the implications involved in her decision to separate. Is there a way I can apply DB principles to this situation?
M-47 WAW-48 M-22 Together-26 S 17, 19 S-1.7.08 D Filed by her 11.21.08
