Sorry to hear that you seem to have taken a step back, I know the cold icy feeling in the stomach just too well! I really really feel for you right now.
My W is still at home and apart from sparing the kids some pain, I wish she was able to just go and live with OM for a while, I am sure that would end the fantasy a bit quicker!! (He is butt ugly too!).
I have started a post under MLC that gives my present situation. Not sure either where my W is in the MLC cycle. I think she is in depression but putting a brave face on things. Would be nice to see an end to it all, but just got to keep going, just got a bit cross with her so I just backslid a bit. Oh well will go and apologize in a minute.
I am sure if you ignore the deadline he will too. MLCers definitely don't like any pressure. My experience is a pressured decision is always to run, or at least to say they are going to anyway.
I too ask myself why I am standing, I think it is best for the kids ,I do love who my wife was and hopefully who she may become. BUT I think none of us deserve this kind of pain. I don't want to meet another woman and like you being alone would not be a problem either but I do want to be happy with the woman I love(d?). I guess the pain of D would be worse. If it doesn't work out I hope I look back in 5 years time and say I honestly did all I could.
Please hang on in there Stella you have inspired me before I would hate to lose you off here!!
With regards telling everybody is H starting to show guilt? Is he 'fessing up to a few people.
From an earlier post it sounded like H was making noises about extricating himself from the mess he is in. Was he sounding you out?
