My gut reaction is that that was a strange message to be sending to your travel agent - whether they are going to be there at a function or not. It also puts the travel agent in a very awkward position. If your H is any good at his job he should realise that. I do wonder however, if that little email was sent with the OW having had a hand in it, or at least having seen it, and it was written to reassure her- not for the agent's information. I even wonder if the agent will actually get an email on the subject.
When my H was carrying on with OW but I didn't know about it, my H arranged out 20th wedding anniversary break which was to Marrakesh - somewhere I had always wanted to go. OW was spitting feathers. Her wedding anniversary was the same date as ours although she had not been married as long. My H booked the swankiest hotel he could find, and stupidly, ( I think to show her what kind of a generous guy he was, he told her all about it.LOL)
Her husband never expended much money on holidays for just the two of them and always just took his wife camping, Usually with their kids in tow too - hah!!!!! OW was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO angry. My H intended still going on our anniversary trip whilst still carrying on with OW when he got back. I am afraid I just point blank refused to go to Marrakesh if we were going on that basis. I didn't know about DBing then and also I was not ever going to let my H cake eat even if I had known. If he was going to act like a sh!t I wanted everyone to know what a complete and utter toe rag he was. Upshot was we had a fantastic time in Marrakech and I enjoyed the fact that OW was really really pissed off!!!! Made it just SO much the sweeter. ( By then she had lost her job at my H's Co. too - happy days )
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
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