Hi, my W is having a classic/textbook/word-perfect MLC. She has had a PA now ended although I suspect still in touch with OM.
She has been to an alternative therapist due to depression and the therapist has recognized that W has self-esteem issues stemming from childhood. This alternative therapy has made W more positive in outlook. I think she is still a little depressed and has a 'thirty yard stare/deer caught in headlights'.
W has reconnected with our children and appears to be returning to old activities of 3-4 months ago.
We are still together but no physical contact, a bit more eye contact but still aiming barbed remarks at me.
W is definitely a different person, sounds different and strangely looks a little different: Anybody else noticed anything like this?
I am keeping out of her way as I believe she is still in withdrawal but not sure. Letting her make the running re: contact at the moment.
My questions are (if anyone can help):
Will the alternative therapy and instant lift it gave her interfere with the natural MLC cycle?
Is letting her doing the pursuing the right thing to do at the moment? The advice here is 'the silence of the spouse is important' but I think she may have put out one or two subtle feelers to see what I really think, or could be 'touch and goes'?
Trying to keep a PMA and GALing as much as possible.
