As far as the awkward visits - they are difficult. I still have not worked out which is best...stay home or leave d with him when he comes. He likes the 3 of us to be together so when he visits he sticks around me, but during the week he does not send me one message, phone call or email. I tried going out when he visits but then i feel like a missed an opportunity to be near him. This is the hardest part - seeing him and remembering good times and being a family but it is not real. You will find your best way to cope but it will take time.
This is us to a "T" at the moment. We are still trying to find our way, settle into our new roles as separated parents. Neither one of us is sure what to do/how to act.
karen, thanks for asking, its been really hard, but the alternative (H staying and us miserable) is even worse.
