stillhopeful, Have you read The Prodigal's Perspective by Bob Steinkemp? They try to convince themselves and their spouses that what they decide is right and that they're happy.
No, but now I will!
Originally Posted By: plentyhope
If you decide to go on the trip, be sure to enjoy yourself and GAL on the trip as much as possible. Let him see that you are fun and that others find your company enjoyable too. Plan to show yourself to him as the person he first fell in love with. Jog his memmory. If possible, be mysterious. If it's within your budget, update your wardrobe and wear things that are different but that he finds attractive. New perfume, new hairdo, makeup, etc.
Will certainly try to do that! Part of the trip will be a breeze, the other part, where he leaves me in Europe so he can return to the OW might be a little more difficult. But I'm going to do it.
Originally Posted By: plentyhope
As for the note, maybe you could say that the note doesn't exactly reflect your thoughts about ending the M but that you respect his wish to end the M and if it makes him happy, he can send it....
Excellent! That is exactly what I was looking for!!! Thank you!!
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
