You're VERY early on in all this. Like yours, my W is afraid of getting my hopes up. She was excited about my suggestion we go on Summer vacation together as a family, but then expressed concerns that she didn't want to get my hopes up. I think that reveals the confusion within them. They want to have a relationship/contact with us but don't want our hopes up.
You're way ahead of many of us in that your W is going to MC with you. Mine said early on she wouldn't go because it was over. That's WAY in your favor.
If I may, be careful about any action that seems agressive (mine calls it passive-agressive) like putting the house up for sale. Mlcer's are major into being into control, ironically because I believe they are very insecure. Try to back way off, give her space, let her figure things out for herself. She's the only one that can.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
