Lost need advice!

[mamanpc]

hi zuma, i am a WAW too and, like your W, i had my mind all made up and was convinced that i needed to be 'free'. H was also afraid to bring the subject out into the open, even after i had told him (in Oct06) that i didn't love him anymore. He also gave me lots of space, took care of the kids, helped in the house etc. and was devastated when i said i wanted to leave (and announced a PA as well) in Jan08.

Now H has a PA too and i'm the one who is devastated - i refused counseling initially and now i would like it and H refuses... i don't know why neither him nor me was able to have a 'real' conversation about our R when i said i didn't love him in autumn06.
It could be that your W is in MLC too - i know that i am... not sure i'm much help to you except to say that things can be in a total state of flux and evolve, so hang in there!