W and me have backed off a bit. W finding it stressful to spend time with me (her words) .
In saying that she spent most of the day here yesterday (sunday), went for walk with D12 together , had dinner and watched some TV. She started off withdrawn but was quite happy by time she left.
Now my take on this is she is clearly not stressed spending time together , seems to enjoy it otherwise why would she come around . It would be just as easy for her to entertain D at her house.
What I suspect is stressing her is when she is apart and alone , shes has set out on a path that would have been easyier if I had stayed the same old me. But I have not acted as predicted and this just may be causing her wheels to wobble , starting to doubt what she is up to , and therefore causing stress.
Then it may just be my wishful thinking. It has been hard to stay patient and I have been a little pursuing at time , this is not always met with negative results as long as it is nothing too big. She likes text messages and being teased not too much more. I also contact her over matter of fact stuff and let her start with the friendly stuff , then run with it.
We are actualy way ahead of 12 months ago but sometimes it still seems such a distant goal.
It would be easier to give up but I am sort of enjoying the game.
