I occasionally read some posts, but not very often and I saw that you had no responses. I am not sure I can add anything; only that you must do what is best for you. Healing takes time; my former husband had a drinking problem and caused a lot of hurt and pain to me. When I finally worked up the courage to leave, it was still painful even though I had done a lot of detaching over 2 1/2 years.
Your former wife is now married and, in my opinion, sends a clear message that your realtionship is over as she has moved forward with her life. You didn't want the marriage to end and probably feel a lot of pain and loss because of her actions. I hope you realize you are not responsible for her actions; only what you do and say.
The question is what you should do with starting a friendship and you probably have to be honest with yourself. Is that something that you want to do (friendship) and continue to rehash the past or move forward and begin to heal within yourself to have a healthy you.
