I so hear you on this one - but luckily for me, I get time off. BUT stbx also takes as little emotional responsibility as possible, and - like Mitch - puts himself first to the point that I don't think the kids' R with him is reason enough to change his ways.
The popcorn and jellybeans don't make you a bad mother; they make you a *gasp* human one. If you were an automaton, or if you had no access to your emotions, you would be able to be a "perfect" mother. Or rather, you would be able to do the tasks that a perfect mother would do, but you wouldn't be emotionally there for your children like you are. And really, what is more important? Your children are loved, they are usually well fed, they are well adjusted and happy. How could they be those things if you were not a good mother?
I do know how you feel, though, as I have been feeling the same way. But then two nights ago, my D gave me a card that she made telling me how much she loves me and what a good mum I am! Their perception is not the same as ours.
BTW, I like AG's suggestions for communicating with your X-ical H.
Love you, Nicola
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