Althea: I'm feeling your pain. Every word of it resounded with me because I have felt it many many times. It is NOT fair. Not any of it. I still feel that way in my situation at times. I am doing the lion's share just like you. Well our a$$wipe exes play around. But it really is true that we will come out ahead. We will be better for it. I know that more often than not these days I KNOW I am better off without him. I see the same thing with my sister who raised her 3 without her ex moron around. The kids and her are better off.
I like that I make the decisions. I like that I can enjoy my kids without the distraction of the 4th kid (ex) around. I also like looking forward to my weekend dates with a man who frees me from all of it - who is there because he wants to woo me - not because we just happen to live under the same roof.
I am thinking of you and nodding my head to everything you wrote. And I also say "bravo to popcorn and jelly beans". Whatever. If you did it every day - not so good. Once in a blue moon - who cares? We always have Strawberry Shortcake for dinner once a year. Yep - all you can eat.
Your kids love you. Keep moving forward. It does get easier.
