WAW's PA over, but still wants Divorce

[Hope4us]

Well, don't know if this means we're getting closer to working on our marriage or not, but this morning was quite the development.

WAW and I got into a discussion about whether or not we were going to get another car since we will soon have 4 drivers in the family. WAW said she had been thinking about it and what did I think. I told her I needed to know what her plans were as far as our future before I would commit to going into more debt. She said she's not going to file for D or move "at least" until DS15 graduates from H.S. That is a big development. 6 weeks ago she had said "I want a divorce, it's what I want. We're not getting any younger" and a whole bunch of other fog speak, and she was talking RIGHT NOW. Forward to today and now she's staying for at least 2 more years. Talking about a family vacation this summer and even talking about a vacation with me and another couple in the fall.

I did my best DB. Didn't push any R talk. Didn't ask for any kind of commitments. Didn't discuss her affair. Didn't pursue in any way. I figure the affair has only ended in her mind 6 weeks ago and now I have at least 2 more years so I've got plenty of time to "court" her.

I'll be working on the things that she's mentioned she has issues with me as well as contuining to GAL and not push anything. I already brought up a possible solution to one of her issues, our finances. I've always taken care of all of the money, etc and that was fine with her, but in one of her rants about how evil I was she made a point of not liking not really controlling any part of her money. I gave her some options as to how we could make her more comfortable in that regard and she told me she'd think about it.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. This weekend has been ok. Today is GREAT! I know we still have a long way to go, and maybe we'll never get there, but at least I'm still in the game!