I know its hard, but you have to think of her "as less as" possible. Can you focus on your R with him, your interactions, your son, the time he spends in the house and consider her a minor bump in your road. Once you get caught in the OP labyrinth you get disoriented and drift away from the real problems and solutions as well as from any signs or progress you may get because everything is poisened. Sorry I instist on this but IMO it is very very important. I know it is hard, very very hard, but if it helps think of all the things that bind you with him that are special no matter if he refuses to see them presently.
BTW, I think your day was extremely positive. And I mean that, I am not saying so just to make you feel good... If you keep what you are doig for the next week or so there will be another positive coming your way. He needs to check on you, and make sure you are what you come across to him right now and you will not revert to a panicking woman (again)...
