My h is the same except he moved out literally 3 days after dropping the bomb, I did not see it coming. When my h walked out I thought I would never stop crying and someone said to me that the crying gets less and the sad moments as well. I did not believe them but 5 months down the line it is true. The best advice I can give is to cry when you need to, it really lets you deal with your emotions but don't cry infront of him (they just want to get up and run).
As far as the awkward visits - they are difficult. I still have not worked out which is best...stay home or leave d with him when he comes. He likes the 3 of us to be together so when he visits he sticks around me, but during the week he does not send me one message, phone call or email. I tried going out when he visits but then i feel like a missed an opportunity to be near him. This is the hardest part - seeing him and remembering good times and being a family but it is not real. You will find your best way to cope but it will take time.
