CAGZ new YEAR - (meredith your 5 years motivated)

[cagzmom]

For me, it was all about that. What was in her past that caused this? In my sitch, the OW's father DID walk out on her and her family when she was young. It doesn't make what she is doing right, but it does help me understand her motivations a little more.

I know much about her past because of speaking with her last summer. Her parents divorced when she was 4. Her mom has been married like 4 or 5 times since....I know who she is. Last summer I did FORGIVE her because I knew she did know the depth of what was going on.....Since September though I have harbored some anger - etc.

Funny though....we blame the OW...when it is H who pursued. How messed up is that.