MLC BS/2?

[missmyfriend]

Patrick, I apologize if I am "riding" you too much but to be honest, your sitch would probably improve if you would listen to the posters who are trying to help.

Your latest post seems to say, what I am doing is not working and my situation is getting worse. Quit reacting to everything that is going on. You may be driving your family to the OM, justifying their behavior.

And what does it matter if your W is in MLC or not? In fact, I wish my W was not in MLC, if I had my choice. MLC is a terrible beast that no one can predict. Not that we can for a WAS either but there are so many additional variables and possibly a very long time before they can work through their issues.

Just be loving to your W and your Ds no matter what has happened. Let them see a man who is a man and cares about his family. Don't make them loving you a requirement for you loving them. Even if you are mad at your wife and don't want her back, think about the fact she was a great wife and a loving one for all those years, who is the mother of your three awesome children.

Do not live by negative emotions. If you are going to live by an emotion, live by love.

That is what a man is. Not someone who can show they are physically stronger. Patrick, to be honest, if I did that, I would win, in most cases but lose what matters most. And there is always someone who is physically stronger anyway.

So if you think a real man is one who loves his family with all of his heart, live to that standard. Protect them emotionally. Physical protection is when they ask for it or when they need it and will respect you for it.

Push your ego aside. Your family NEVER needs your ego.

As Jack said, he would have considered you using your physical protection of your W if someone had kidnapped her and held her against her wishes. This is not one of those times.

Patrick, I am not trying to be hard on you. This is what I say to myself every day since this has happened to me. I realized that this is not about me but about my family. Protect them, not yourself.

You can do it!