Our situation is a bit complicated. 5 months ago my H started a new job in Atlanta. We agreed that it would be best for me to stay behind to sell our house in Charleston, SC. We did have a loving marriage, even though it often was not easy because I contracted Lyme 9 years ago. I`m doing ok now, but have been through terrible times and need antibiotics constantly. About 2 months ago he started an affair with an eight year older co-worker, it`s all very bizarre. After he confessed 5 weeks ago the affair did not end, just the opposite. I know that they want to quit seeing each other, but more to not endanger their jobs than anything else. I have decided to wait it out and what I`m doing right now is a mix between a 180 and last resort. I`m going to schedule a coaching session asap. He comes home every weekend, calls every day he`s not here and gave me RED roses for our anniversary 14 days ago. That`s what I mean with mixed signals. He is polite, but distant. I have snooped and found emails the other woman sent him, where she writes that she loves him and hopes for a future together. What crap, how can you love somebody you don`t know? The way she sees him is not how he is at all, and I told him so. Of course I tried to reason with him, did not help, but that was before I read DR. Now I keep my mouth shut and wait and see. after what I read here it won`t help to go to couples counseling at this point, just the opposite. He wants out, I want to continue and it would just antagonize him further. Sounds logic and I`m glad I did not push the issue. He wants individual counseling though.
