Frank, you of all people should recognize where exactly your situation is right now and what exactly you should be doing.
Not to be an asss or anything, but you know what, screw her right now. You have done your work buddy, you have made incredible changes and efforts to make life better. She chooses to distance herself from you, the kids, hell even the dogs. You know where she is at, what stage she is clearly sitting in.
Get back to the business of being FrankD. Being a strong man, strong father, and strong leader. Here's some reality for you dude, FIB hit the nail on the head. For you at this point, this far along in your journey, there is no fence riding option.
Have you ever read Franklin Covey's 7 habits of highly effective people? If not, I think you should Frank. Mainly because I believe you could use his advice as a leader in business and use it in your personal life. A lot of what Covey does is he teaches you how to prioritize the tasks that you need to accomplish. He has you classify them basically as:
A. Needs to be done today. B. Should be done today, but can be done early tomorrow. C. Can wait until tomorrow. D. Not a major priority get to it when you can.
Not for nothing, but the way your wife is behaving and her attitude and comments, she is definitely a D item for you right now. You have so many A, B, and C items that you could be focusing on right now, so forget the D's.
I hope you get what I am saying in all of that my friend, I know you have the tools to do what needs to be done here. YOu have done it before. Just hate to see you fumble around with something you know is unhealthy and not in your best interest.
