"You" can't really move it along. You'll have to just keep up the PMA and working on improving yourself. Be the person she will WANT to be with.
For what its worth, that will probably include watching her find for herself that partying and acting like a kid again are actually self-destructive behaviours. IF she asks, you might be able to suggest that she might not have to spend the whole day hungover if she didn't party so hard, but bringing it up yourself will be seen as pushing.
Long and bumpy road...and a real pain in the a$$ to watch. But you are doing the right things, just keep it up. Keep coming here to vent, and keep acting 'as if" everything is just fine....
