Quoting KAW: Z, I've been striving for this for over a year now and she has come to recognize I'm willing to move heaven and earth for her (her words from her journal) and yet she still yearns for him. I don't know what more I can do at this point?
Well, not much you can do, I suppose. You've done it all. Maybe it's time to back off. I don't mean "go dark", I mean back off, be there, but don't help. If help is asked for, if closeness is wanted, by all means jump right in. But if it's not, leave her alone. Back off. But don't ever let her think you've stopped caring, ir that you've become indifferent.
It's time for another 180 KAW. You are dependable, you are Mr. Fix it. Stop. This is working, but not as well as you would like, so try something else. But monitor carefully (but not by snooping) how your new approach works. If it works, do more of it, if not try something else.
Yes, her meds and her endocrine and her depression are factors you need to be mindful of, but don't let her or you make them excuses. Try something different.
You are her rock, her basis. Maybe too much so. Show her that you are willing to live your own life, even if she's not willing to come along. But if she shows the vaguest interest in what you're doing, open up and invite and welcome her. The fact that she has noticed ist positive, if she joins in is marvelous.
