Interesting dynamic with the Jeep. Given what you've written before, it seems your W "knows" on some level that you snoop. As such, she knows you "know" about her thoughts, and thus, thinks you won't get her the car?!?! Thing is, my friend, you and I both know our Ses don't think straight on finances when in WA-mode. Protect yourself...
KAW, I know it's a bit scary, but do you not think it's time to confront your W with what's been going on? Let's face it, when our Ses first go into WA-mode, it is best that we stand back and let the process play itself out because it's entirely likely that they will see the light...eventually. Your situation is a bit different. You've already done this and forgiven. I think, in some ways (as I've suggested before), your W never had the opportunity to see what being with the OM was really like...never really had the fantasy live and then die... Heck, my W's A lasted at least a year. So, what to do...what to do...
I guess I'm thinking that eventually something has to give in your situation. Seems like things are building and building. Either she's going to go off the deep end (with all the wonderful associated fallout) or it will drag on and on until you get sick of it.
What have been your thoughts lately on trying to handle this, KAW? Were you planning on going with the status quo for now? Do you have a timetable? Where is your tolerence level right now?
Thing is, my friend, you and I both know our Ses don't think straight on finances when in WA-mode. Protect yourself... 
