Hey K I feel for you, it's hard but in the end it really is
our W's struggle. Mine has always been looking for "SOMETHING" to make her happy a new job,car,house,ect.
She doesn't realize it's an inner peace that truely makes us happy and that we each are responsible for our own happiness. Sounds like your W's searching, hopefully one day she will find that inner peace we all need.
As painfull as it is were reduced to the role of spectator most of the time. Personally I'm trying to make
all major moves (financial career ect.) so that what ever
happens in the M the results will be favorable in the end.
Hang in there! C.