Look out for the landmines ... KABOOM!

[Jamesjohn]

I now believe I made a terrible mistake! I told her I didn't want to lose her and that I was willing to share her if that is what it would take to keep her, however, I didn't want to know anything about it. Now I feel those words are coming back to haunt me!!!

So, tell her you've changed your mind about this. You don't have to tell her you know what's going on right now. Just draw the line in the sand, and set a boundary. End of discussion, don't discuss it any further.

Unless, of course, you find this situation acceptable.

Maybe it is time for a 180 of not being so understanding and helpful.

Yup, I agree.