I just read what Andy wrote. I think he is right. That she needs to become her own self or define herself from you. With my W what it took from me is backing way off allowing her to come to her own conclusions, do her own things. It was probably the hardest thing that I have ever done. When she really needed I was there but other than that I was going and doing my own thing. While she was doing these things she spent money we didnt have, she was out drinking a lot. What it did for her is make her realize what she was doing and what she really wanted. I think she is still confronting some of those things. The last 3 weeks have been very mellow for the both of us. We have been having a good time going out and such. I really just think you need to let her go and do her things.
