Don't give up on yourself. I like something I read from Aristole, it was "An unexamined life is not worth living." You do have a lot to offer. Find that in yourself and offer that. Perhaps your wife will warm up, perhaps not, but what you offer is more than anything else that she has out there. You have a history, and you have had her heart. Don't beat yourself up. Maybe you have forgotten to do the little things, but that's why we have forgiveness. To seek it, to ask it. The message at my church this past weekend was about working through problems. Problems mold us into being better people. Through all of this, take time to exam yourself, and bring you out! You're a terrific person with lots to offer, and hopefully she will see that. We can fantasize what life outside of our marriage is all we want, but to take the bait on the hook, is to buy into the lies of our culture, and we miss the blessing, and the healing, that can come in our own relationship. That's the incredible power of love, that love is transforming. May you find that transforming power of love, and see it in your life. We're rooting for you! DoRight
