Hey, KAW, I think you've got progress on your hands. She's the one who initated snuggling next to you. She's the one who made something for you. And all because you gave her a little of what she needed, and that goes a long ways. That was something that was so out of balance with my wife and I before. I was the giver. Rarely would she do something kind towards or for me. We were, as Michelle says, on the seesaw, and as long as I did all the work, she didn't have to. She knew I'd plan the getaways, I would take care of this for her, that for her, etc. etc. etc. After our seven and half month separation, when we got back together, I noticed she started doing little things for me. I enjoyed the attention. And yes, I told her I appreciated her doing those things. That meant a lot to me. That spoke love. I also made it clear that I wasn't taking the full load in taking care of romanitic things for us. I expected her to plan a trip or two, for her to "kidnap me" every once in awhile, or her to say, let's go do this. Having the give and take made things much better. My wife also appreciated the fact that I had learned to give her space when she needed it. Kind of funny, early in our relationship, I gave her single stem roses. I thought she liked it. Never complained. Turns out, she hates single stem roses, but never told me, until we got back together last November.(Mind you, we've been married ten years.) She had a friend who told her, "Let me get this right, you'd cut this guys left *!* off because you're mad that he doesn't give you bunches of flowers more often because you hate single stem roses, but you've never told him you hate single stem roses?" Learning what works, doing what works, is so important. I think, KAW, you found something that works! That's progress! Keep up the good work! We're cheering for you! Do Right
