Could be time to face her, fess to knowing, call an end to being Mr. Nice Guy.
She's not nice.
I'm mad on your behalf.
OK, what if you let her know you snooped, take your punishment, but then deal with what's going on?
Been there, exactly there (guilty of spying, took the rap for that) -- but gained clarity and stopped the lies when this was all confronted.
No, it's not easy. Sucks. Hurts bad. So sorry.
You deserve far better treatment and need to stand up for yourself. You love her, tell her, but suggest she go -- let her go after what she thinks she wants.
She'll find out fast enough what she is losing.
Rather than pine away after cake, she'll have a plateful -- and find out it can give you a big stomachache.
Being blunt here cuz I am on your side, have been there, and think ACTION is in order.
Hand her the keys, man. Time for her to split.
OK, later I'll calm down and be more balanced, I promise. For now, these are my thoughts.
