For what means? Not sure I see where you are going with this? To be more attentive to her needs was one of my biggest and first 180's. Wouldn't that be like Andy's 180 + 180 = 360?
I'm not really talking about a total 360 here. I think that your being more attentive to her needs was a great 180, and has taken you a long ways. In some cases, not all, the 180's can become, for lack of a better word, "stale" after a period of time.
Doing a total 180 is a great way to break patterns, and to get the momentum flowing in a different direction. After awhile, though, a good 180 usually finds it's way to being maybe a "135", or even a "90". It's like the Karate Kid deal, trying to find your balance, grasshopper!
I'm almost wondering if, at times, you might be paying TOO much attention to her needs. Or are doing this too "non-stop". If you're not taking a break every once in awhile, you run the risk of draining the life-forces out of yourself, and you might not be allowing her the opportunity to grow.
You don't have to kick the chair out from under her, but you can move it every once in awhile, or maybe stick something under one of the legs so it rocks a bit, and she has to balance it on her own.
I'm kinda rambling here, so I don't know if I'm making a lot of sense! I guess my point is it's ok to shake things up every once in awhile. To "do something different", and see what the results are.
JJ
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