Quote: I don't have time to get into right now nor do I feel I'm ready to express my conjecture at this time, but I didn't want to press last weekend jethro because I got the sense, that in the frame of mind she was in, if it came out, she would have felt she could resigned from trying any further to stay in R. More for self preservantion, I wasn't going to give her that option.
So bringing it out in the open now, when she is overwelmed with guilt and looking at the world and her life with very dark colored glasses, is it really the appropriate time?
Okie-dokie. I understand a bit better now. I guess I needed a few fill-in-the-blanks. Makes sense.
Quote: sorry Big-j, not sure if I can even discuss it on this forum, but I like to have you know I am getting some comfort from what you shared that your W has gone thru in the aftermath of her A ... the stress, the guilt ... I believe my W is going thru it now ...
Ohh...I see... Well, I'm glad my sitch has offered some insight. You know, I do think that our S's guilt can become so overwhelming that it is easier for them just to give up. It does take an act of bravery on their part to make the necessary changes to move forward with the R... I pray that your W was shedding the last throes of her "funk" and will now "return" to you...as may be the case given how well last night went... Hopefully, there are far more of those nights to come, KAW.
Well, I'm glad my sitch has offered some insight. You know, I do think that our S's guilt can become so overwhelming that it is easier for them just to give up. It does take an act of bravery on their part to make the necessary changes to move forward with the R... I pray that your W was shedding the last throes of her "funk" and will now "return" to you...as may be the case given how well last night went... Hopefully, there are far more of those nights to come, KAW.
