I think you have the right idea now. No more score cards. Think of it this way, if you're keeping score, then you are trying to win, and there are now winners or losers.
Heres a thought that I think might help out a bit. If your W starts to do something and you tell her you will do it and she tells you that it is ok, let her do it, dont persist. But on the other hand, dont set back and not do anything, just if you get to it first go for it, if she gets to it first, let her do it.
Just a thought. I think it might help cut down on some confrontation and she might be able to relax more.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
