Hi Stella, I am like you I have had no one to confide in except one friend who is an ex-mental health nurse and went through a difficult divorce and a long period of counseling himself. He is a great guy but he is a friend of both me and my MLC wife. In hindsight although I was desperate just to confide in someone about W's replay affair - it was a mistake. Its very true MLCers do not like to be talked about.
I have not mentioned my wifes MLC or A/OM to any of my relatives and intend to keep it that way.
With regards who knows what, I have had the odd comment directed at me about W's behavior(s) and really I don't care. What I have found from personal experience is that people are so bound up in their own lives that they really only have a passing interest in other peoples, so who cares?
I know several colleagues who have had affairs. I have a fairly benign conscience myself and I am not judgmental. Generally they do it to boost their egos and, as is the case with my W I am guessing that they have self-esteem issues left over from childhood. I just feel it is a shame they have made a mess of their lives.
I have found this is the best, safest place to confide, people here understand what you are going through.
My advice is don't worry or care about what other people know or think, I am sure they only think well of you. As for H...... that is his problem.
