Unbelievable!! Wow, I hardly know what to say. How can a man even in deep MLC or some other emotional problems say that to his son?
Well, I don't think I could blame you for going completely dark and just consentrate on building a life for you and your son. If he gets the help he needs and comes to you wanting back into your life....and you still want to take another chance on him, that would be your call. Your poor little boy must be so crushed beyond words! Did he even say that he would try to see his son sometimes?
I hope you will consider having your child talk to one of the counselors or the pastor of your church about his feelings. He needs to let all of that out and have some guidance and you are too close to him and caught up in the hurt and emotion also. He really needs a professional to help right now so he won't develop some major problems. Wow......what an age for a son to be told his dad isn't coming back again.
So sad. ((((hugs))) for you and your child. May God protect you and give each of you what you need to get you through this terrible ordeal. My heart goes out to you.
Please don't stop talking to us. You need everyone here. You need to talk, scream, cry, pray, or whatever to get this out. Talk to your pastor or counselor too.
I will check on you tomorrow or the next day. Listen to all the good sermons on the TV tomorrow for spiritual encouragement. You need to feed your soul.....even if you don't feel like it right now. You've got to eat physical and spiritual food. Don't get mad at God for what your H has done to you and your son b/c God does not interfer with our volition......we all make our own choices and like you said....love is a choice. You are a strong woman, but you are allowed to be weak in front of God, so He can strengthen you up more.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
