I believe there is direct connection btw these thoughts and having emotionally abusive parents. If you were constantly scolded and belittled as a child, you are most likely to develop a similar pattern of abuse directed at yourself as adult.
I'm trying to deal with it most of my life...
Definitely! I agree 100%. It sure affects a childs and thus an adults self esteem too and I think these thought distortions are probably more evident in people with lower self esteem than normal.
I too have been fighting this most of my life. It has turned into contempt for my Mom. Something I'm not proud of but have learned to accept.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
