OK - this coming Monday, I have another mediation meeting with my Wife. I would like to utilize the positive atmosphere that our mediator can establish, to ask W to attend the April 11 - 13 Boston area Retrouvaille with me.
Prior to the September Retrovaille, even though I emphasized the benefits of improving communications for both of us, she still said "she did not feel it would be a positve experience for her".
Can anyone who has attended Retrouvaille, think of a way to convince a WAS, who is a major conflict avoider, that Retrouvaille is not a Catholic inquisition to inflict guilt upon the wayward spouse, and that the weekend could actually be a positive experience for her?
I was thinking I would promise to not dwell on the past year and a half, and say we can focus on ways to improve our communication in the now, so we can remain friends during and after D? (even though I DO NOT want to divorce).
Does anyone have any suggestions?
Thank you very much,
LG
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
