Congratulations on moving back home, and being a great partner and father! You are right, when you can appreciate the subtleties of family life, it is a lot more fun than carrousing. I highly recommend that you and your wife sign up for a Retrouvaille weekend near you. Check the website, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. The weekend will be a great way to put the past behind you and start out your new married life on a good solid base. They teach you both communication skills so you can stop avoiding the dreaded relationship talk. Instead it becomes a richly rewarding topic. It makes communication between the spouses a warm, intimate occasion. A Retrouvaille weekend changed my marriage 100% for the better. It can do the same for you. And I do know what you are talking about, feeling like you are waiting for another bomb to drop. I felt that way for a long time after we reconciled. But with time, and understanding, it does go away.
