JM, I am not contradicting myself at all. I would not take this person back. Nor would I expect her to return to the person she left. My point is that we both need changes. She does not even realize that what she has done has hurt her children. She is in total denial. She doesn't want to know that her 5 year old cries for her. She would have to see what she has done and change those behaviors, much the same as I am hoping I am doing through this process with the grace of God. The only way I would take her back is if she dealt with her issues and we worked on things together or with a c. The point I was trying to make is that she can't just keep doing what she is doing until she runs out of money or can't pay her bills then decide it is time to come back. The hard part is trying to be nice when I think about the kids. If she is pissed at me, I get it....but what did the kids do to deserve this? It is a tuff sit and I can deal with it most days but seeing my kids hurt is not easy to deal with.
