Keeping in contact with my relatives means long distance calls. Since W's cell plan includes free long distance, she allows me to use her phone. Lately, I've notice she has been clearing the call history, so I got on-line and checked. There is a cell number I didn't recognize that has been called three times in the last two months. The second one was long enough a call that it had to be a conversation. This occurred the week before W's first C session. The third was just last Friday.
I called the number and got a voice mail greeting, "Leave a message." It was a guy's voice and by the tone seem familiar. So I called OM's cell number from last year. The number is no longer in service. He evidently switched carriers. This would also mean she has had some prior contact to get the new number. I know I can't do anything with this, but it does explain alot of her recent behavior. As Matilda nd others have said, you can tell when something is not quite right. Come to think about it Matilda did confront her H about it, which in turn was the catalyst that eventually did finally turn her M around, so maybe there is something I can do?
The difference here is, my W actually had a strong attraction to OM and I believe it he who basically broke it off. She even journalled, that even tho he treats her like sh*t, she still has strong feelings for him.
A couple of times around this time last year, she asked me if I'm to stay in this M what do I do with the feeling I have for him? I replied, if we work on nuturing the bond between us, the ones you have for him will fade.
In fact the whole foundation I had built my trust on ... to regain myself from my insecurities so we can move on ... to believe as long as I remain true to myself and who I want to be, she would want to be with me as well is nothing more than crap!
Uh oh! I better stop. I don't like the direction this post is taking.
Don't worry tho. As they say, when the way is not clear, do nothing. I will not do anything until I sort thru these emotions and I can start thinking rationally again, all the while just watch and monitor as much as possible while continuing to be the best person I can be...
Thanks bb, jethro and Bridget for the moral support. That does help alot...altho any suggestions would be very welcomed.
