OK, This party is not a divisory issue between W & I even thought it may sound like it.
W has no problem with me attending the party and she has no problem with me taking D6 with me. She has just made it clear she doesn't want to attend. I mentioned it again to day and before we could discuss it W just said "There is no point in me going" and changed the subject. So I'm going to leave it at that. I on the other hand am obligated to attend as I am the childs Great-uncle (I love that title) and I am also a nominated guardian (god parent in religious terms).
The disappointing fact is that both W and I attended the hospital when the child was first born, we also visited her when she was first brought home by her mother (my niece). We both attended the childs naming ceremony (civil christening ) and we both attended her first birthday party last year. So I think W not wanting to attend is still linked to not wanting to face up people she perceives to have an opinion on our sitch.
The irony now is that W has been invited to a surprised birthday party for the big boss at her work place and is really keen for me to attend with her. Now the old me would have said *** you, you skip my party I skip yours, but I'm done with all that tit for tat stuff.
But if I may vent for a while, it does pee me off when I see W is not prepared to bend, but sometimes I have to bend like a palm tree in a hurricane to keep us on track. This on top of her still talking to me like I'm a piece of cr*p when the alien fleetingly appears, and me not getting any sex, and how easily she gave it up for OM, then me thinking about all of the other things she's done. Then it's easy to see how can fall back into old dysfunctional habits.
Ok I'm gonna sit down take some deep breaths and think nice calm thoughts.
