I'm so sorry you are going through this & yes I know exactly how you feel!! My H told me on Sept. 6th he wanted a D & I had no ideal anything was wrong. He filed for D the next week, it just moved so fast & he thought I would give in & sell the house & not find out about the OW & we would be D by the end of the year. I did some snooping & found out about her. Then my lawyer got involved & we went after H. I really didn't want to but I had to look out for me. I knew if I had to move out of the house I would go to an apartment & it wasn't safe for me to have to walk my dogs at night by myself. My backyard is fenced in & it is more feasible for me to stay in the house considering the cost of renting these days.
I do hope he will come to his senses & not wait so long because if he waits too long it may be too late. He was the love of my life & I expected to grow old with him. Surely he will wake up soon!! About 3 years ago he took up skydiving & scuba diving so I should have known then what was going on with him, but I just didn't think too much about it & didn't know what to expect with a MLC.
You are a wonderful person yourself & I hope things will work out for you & H. This OW my H is with is about 2 years older than him & had a lot more experience than he has. In fact I saw an email he sent to her & told her she was way out of his league. I'm not exactly sure what that meant but she has him for now. I'm like you & trying to detach. I've done a few things around here that I'm sure he will be surprised when he comes to get his things. I have had to call him a couple of times & will again next week. We have been cordial & I've only talked business with him that we need to deal with. So, I hope I'm handling it ok for now. I'm sure I'm going to fall apart once he gets his things out of the house, I'm so afraid I'll never see him again.
You hang in there also!!! Thank you for being so sweet & giving me advice, you haven't been dealing with this as long as I have but it seem like you are much more knowledgeable than I am & I sure need that advice right now!!!
